Mental Matters Column: Have our behaviours changed?

Top motivational speaker and ex-MK Dons footballer Drewe Broughton explains how we had a great opportunity, but feels little has changed.

Fear. It’s governed the hearts of humans for as long as history can remember. It’s both a motivator and
prohibitor.

Sometimes I feel like I’ve done a PhD and I’m the professor of fear. It dominated me for so long, as long as I can remember.

It made me unable to enjoy the moment, it ruined family holidays, it ruined relationships, it stole the joy and happiness from so many moments.

I fell in love with football, as many young boys do at aged eight. It was a powerful love affair, I was obsessed by this incredible game. I had an overwhelming passion and purpose, it was alive and on fire.

Slowly through the years of 12, 13, 14 and 15, the flames of passion were extinguished by the waves of fear. Such was the purpose, I hung on to my little branch of truth as I was washed down the violent river of fear for 17 years.

When I washed up on the rocks at 33, tattered, torn, gaunt and unrecognisable from the boy with love in his heart, I was at a crossroads.

Death or enlightenment. I say death because at the time the thought of continuing in this pain was
just so, so hard to accept.

To this day on my morning gratitude list is point No.1. I am grateful for the suffering, that led me to this incredible wisdom.

Fear. The abrupt end to life as we know it, back in March, brought a great opportunity. Whilst I know many will have seen the truth, the world I work in where dreams and livelihoods are on the line daily and public judgement is judge and jury, I’m afraid to report back little has changed.

You see fear is an energy, it’s cunning, lies suppressed and dormant. In so many, they are unconsciously changed by its power. It affects their thoughts, words and deeds.

Covid-19 was an opportunity for so many to sit with our utter vulnerability and lack of power. So that when the pressure begins again, they can FEEL it, smile back and say, “I have no idea what will happen, all I have is myself and trying to become the best version of myself, if I overcontrol the fear.

“If I act with anger, it’s fear, if I speak dishonestly, it’s fear. So, no more.”

It took me until 33 years old to have my ‘rock bottom’. Has this last four months been painful enough, to make real change in people?

For further information, visit http://www.drewebroughton.com or drop an email to Drewe at info@drewebroughton.com

This feature was published in the July 2020 issue of Celebrate:MK lifestyle magazine. Read the full magazine above or by clicking on this link.

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